When someone we love is no longer here to celebrate the holidays with us, their absence can feel even more profound. However, the love and memories they gave us don’t disappear they remain part of who we are. Finding ways to honor your loved one can be a comforting way to keep their spirit alive.
Create a Special Ritual
Rituals provide structure to our grief. You might:
– Light a candle in their memory.
– Set up a special ornament or decoration in their honor.
– Write them a letter expressing your feelings.
Carry on a Tradition They Loved
Was there a holiday activity or dish they adored? Continuing these traditions can feel like sharing the season with them. My husband loved Baklava which I always made at Christmas and I continued to make it in his memory over the next few years.
Make New Traditions in Their Honor
Start something fresh, like donating to a cause they cared about, volunteering in their memory, or creating a “memory jar” for family to contribute to.
Share Stories and Memories
Talking about your loved one can keep their memory alive. Sharing stories or inviting others to contribute memories can deepen the connection. During that first Thanksgiving while we were gathered around the table each person shared a memory, usually a funny story about my husband and also my mom as she had died the year before. This helped so much because it removed “The Elephant in the Room.”
Give Yourself Grace
Honoring your loved one should feel right for you. Go at your own pace and adjust as needed.
